so lately i’ve noticed a lot of text posts revolving around the “i annoy everyone” mentality. i just read one that said “someone could literally marry me and i would still wonder if they secretly found me annoying”.
the thing is, it’s totally inhumane to not be annoyed. like, you could be the most peaceful human being and love absolutely everything and everyone and you will still be annoyed by something. a fly all up in your face, a friend telling you a story for the sixteenth time, stubbing your little toe on a chair, SOMETHING will always annoy you.
and that’s okay.
it doesn’t need to have negative connotations to it.
marriage, if you think about it, is actually the most unnatural thing in the world, my grandma used to say (worth noting that she was with my grandpa for 65 years, and they worked together). it is not a natural thing to live so closely with another person.
how many people can you honestly say you could sit across the breakfast table to every. single. morning?
the reality is, you’re going to annoy people. don’t let it get in the way of living. don’t let it stop you from sharing your story to a friend, even if they have heard it a thousand times. the key isn’t to stop being annoying, the key is to be more tolerant and realise that it’s not a big deal. it’s not a big deal that your friend is telling this story again, or that you siblings chew with their mouth open. it’s not worth getting angry over and people are more receptive to being asked to stop something nicely than if you bottle it up until you explode.